Depression is the mental illness which can ruin your relationship. Many people are there in this world who has suffered from depression which does not affect their thoughts; personality, responsibilities but depressions also create effects on relationships. Now we are going to discuss the ways through which the depression can ruin a relationship.

Depression can make you feel that you are not perfect or good enough for your partner

According to the research of the psychologist, it has been noticed that one of the major problems comes in the life of depressed people is self-doubt. When you are in depression you can get the clear view because you have set in your mind that you are good for your love life or your partner. Many times it happens that you started thinking that your partner does not love or does not care about you, these all types of thinking comes in your mind because of depression which makes your relationship in doubt.

It can kill your sex drive

Depression can cause the lack of interest in sex; some depression medication is also responsible for the lack of interest in sex. In depression your mind gets sick so, during sex, if your mind is not much active than it can interfere the erection in male and in the female it will interfere in the ability of orgasm.

Depression can create many unnecessary dramas in your relationship

When you are in the relationship than its common to have negative thinking which can cause the fight with your partner. Even you can start the fight on the silly things that have no sense. The fight can make your relationship weak and you are fighting because you are depressed and you just get negative thought because of that.

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It also interferes with communication

You did want to share your problems with your partner, you did want to talk or convey with your partner, you really feel very hard to find the words to talk with your partner, even the people who are in depressed feel pointless to communicate with their partner and we all know the importance of communication in any relationship.

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It is really very hard for you to love fully

Many studies are there who show that depression can destroy happy as well as the healthy relationship because when we deal with own mental problems than its really very difficult to focus on someone’s else feeling, even you know that you love your partner some but you cannot feel it.

Jealousy is one of the major things create rifts in any relationship, so, you can call it “Relationship Killer”.

Are you in the relationship and you have tends to get jealous? Do you think that your partner is being jealous of you? Do you displays your jealousy in different points or you have jealousy because of different reasons in your relationship?  So, today let me tell you the reason and the side effects of the jealousy in a relationship.

Cause of jealousy

feeling of insecurities

Whether your partner is cheating on you or not but you always believed that he or she is cheating on you, so you started keeping eyes on your partner, start observing all the movement of your partner, you just violate the privacy of your partner because of jealousy in a relationship etc.

What can you do?

Trust is the first step of love and if you have trust in your partner then your relationship can go much longer so, always trust your partner.

jealousy in a relationship because of past

We all have some good and bad past but when your partner I cheated on you in past then you just create jealousy in present relationship because of his past mistake than its wrong as may be your partner has learned the good things from his mistakes.

What to do?

Always remember that every relationship is not same and you have not done anything wrong with anyone so you deserve better things in your life, so,  don’t get negative thought from your partner past mistakes, if you have given the second chance to your partner than belief in your decision as well on your partner.

If you do not try to stops your tendency of jealousy in relationship than the relationship killer that is none another than jealousy can kill your pure and perfect relationship so, work on your jealousy before getting too late.

Everything starts with two people fall in love. A relationship begins, and when love is great and passion possible, then there is an unprecedented harmonization of these two people. This, in addition to a sense of maximum match and agreement, offers another unforgettable feeling: full recognition and acceptance by the other. What happens to us is that after the first moments of our lives in the maternal embrace, only love can bring us back: looking in the eyes of the other we see ourselves as the most perfect, the most adorable creature in the world, while the other is the same for us. This situation is so charming, so enjoyable that we would like to keep forever. It is impossible, unfortunately. What is happening instead?

Sometimes the process of “detachment” from one another begins, when we become again “me” and “you”, two “common mortals” with imperfections, weaknesses, coats, ugliness.

This process is painful and multidimensional: not only we see the other as a common mortal but also ours. And the most painful of all is that one sees himself in the eyes of another’s self demystified.

The relationship, of course – not always but often – continues and each one separately but both together try to find a new balance. To find out what relationship exists between the positive creature they had made with the eyes of their love and the true creature with flesh , bones facing them. To fight with their frustration and anger for what they thought they had and see to lose.

The sad thing is that, the bigger the passion, the more difficult and painful the downloading from the podium. But one more thing: the greater the need for mythology (the other and that to us), the more troubled the course towards demystification and “regularity”.

Thus, for many couples, this course of action means a long, tortuous often ambivalence between passion, love, admiration, worship on the one hand, and indignation, contempt, indifference, even hatred of one another . Many of these couples can not withstand this emotional amusement park and dissolve along the way, while others, often with much effort, manage to “stabilize” their feelings and settle down. Sometimes – among them are many couples of artists and intellectuals with troubled companionship with successive separations and reunions – they never stop to falter, preserving in some way the myth: you can not be for me except god or nothing.

But let’s see how this “Scottish shower” (that’s what they feel and what they call it) is experienced by everyone in the couple.

The male side

Mars talks about his own relationship with Frosso: “When I heard my friends saying they did not understand the women, I thought they were blinking of their father’s cliché, but now I feel that exactly: I do not understand my wife. He is incredibly moody. We are all lovers, it shows me tenderness, desire, devotion, makes me really feel like loving the other, a few days later, as if asking for a reason to fight and then everything is in question. I, our relationship, ourselves, our lives, our future. I suddenly feel as if I do not mean anything about it and you say what I say to her, whatever I do about it does not really matter, it falls into the void … “.

 

The female side

“… there are moments – and not a few – I wonder myself because I still stay with him. How is it possible for the same man to be crazy in love, full of tenderness, worship, full of enthusiasm and dreams of our relationship two days later with a trivial occasion that I have not understood well-well what happened, to be frosty, indifferent, to talk to me abruptly and to make me almost feel like he dislikes me … when he gets so crazy, I lose my faith in our relationship, I doubt his love, I’m disappointed and of course I am incredibly angry with him … “so Antonia describes a snapshot of turbulent quake timeless relationship with the Apostle.

What can happen then? As we have experienced most, men and women have neither the same perception of what is love and much less the same codes of conduct and language to express it. So, misunderstandings are unfortunately unavoidable, with many painful consequences.

In the first case, it is very likely that what Antonia interprets as indifference and antipathy to her face is the anger of the Apostle, an undoubtedly generalized anger taking a ball and their relationship. A fairly common behavior of men is the manifestation of their anger or irritation towards their close faces, whether they are ‘blame’ or not, something that when left out is for themselves as if they have not happened. Women often find it difficult to understand this behavior, they feel injustice, rejection and, most importantly, they are far from easy to overcome.

 

In the latter case, what Mars does not understand in Frosso is the so ordinary female emotional exchange. The emotional state of women often resembles an upward wave. When the wave goes up, they have the need and the desire to give love and tenderness while when they come down they want to get love and understanding. This does not have to do with feelings towards their partner, but he feels he has to do something to correct the situation. Unfortunately, the wave has its own rhythm and rises only after it has first reached the bottom.

What is happening in both cases, however, is the interpretation given by the individual partner to the unreasonable, perhaps selfish, behavior of the man or his wife and his reaction to it.

What is finally done is two-way. Because it is so difficult for many people to receive negative emotions on the part of the person they love, because that makes them feel insecure and abandoned yet, they react with intense feelings.

He who feels that his companion is treated as nothing (or rather, so that he feels null) begins to challenge the other, his love, the relationship. So in every way everyone contributes to the situation in the limbs.

Solutions of this:

As much as it sounds unfair, perhaps the most important part of the “solution” lies in the one who feels treated as a god and then as a zero. When the manifestation of love or love of my companion makes me feel god and the manifestation of negative emotions degrades to zero, then it is very likely that I am very dependent on each other’s feelings and my self-image hangs on my own disposal.

There is no doubt that it is very unpleasant to be with a person who easily loses control of his feelings, is irritable and becomes abrupt with his partner without him being blamed. That is why, in these cases too, is the “good side” of the relationship: how much love, how devotion, or how much tenderness gives this man to feel that, despite all this difficulties, does this relationship cover me? Naturally, relationships are not a calculation but to withstand it, it is necessary for those who make them to feel that there is a relative emotional balance with their partner, even with fluctuations and turbulence.

So when I feel that despite these difficult moments this person is important and necessary but when he “takes me down from the podium” I feel like he rejects me, as if he pulls the carpet under my feet, then what I need , it may not be to change his own behavior but to stand better on my feet. Only then will I be able to feel better but also to give my partner a truly understanding that his behavior is selfish and unfair to me.

 

At the beginning of a relationship, in the first place the couple works more on a psychic level. What do we mean by that? They share things like good friends, they tease the world, they comment, they gossip when they go out together. Within this more relaxed context sometimes we may have annotation of other women . The same is true for women, and they can often comment on a boy.

Because the reader itself raised the question of insecurity, I would say that it is probably not a man’s personality issue. Very often we refer to the insecurity of the other … It should itself examine whether she has given her ok to her boyfriend since the beginning of the relationship, if she has allowed it to do so and has not set limits. Many times women accept it at first and then we protest. Do you want to shift a scholar to the man’s position?

Men, just like women, have eyes to see. But from then on, if their partner has encouraged them to make such conversations, is he not to blame? Is this the case in this case?

A useful advice I have to give is to avoid the characterizations of many women. Insecurity, showcasing. No, they do not really help us to make a relationship for which we care. Let us not interpret that, things. It is good to search for ourselves for such problems. And then we are exploring who is our partner and what kind of relationship, how serious we have with him and how we want to go ahead.

We do not know what the couple’s love life and relationship is, of course , whether it is as rich as the beginning of the relationship.

We certainly do not know their love life, whether they are rich as they were in the first place, that’s a question, and second, if that girl has any feelings about this boy. Will their relationship be something special, something unique? What is it looking for through this relationship?

The fact that she gets angry may be because she has not found the way to discuss this with her partner . They may have a good sex I do not know but maybe they have not installed the essential emotional contact in their relationship, talking about what they think and feel without ego, to see how everyone feels.

What needs, what desires, in order for the relationship to last and go further, is it interested in going further? What makes her angry? Are there other points in the relationship that disturb her and irritate her, and is it what he is presenting for now because he is more obvious than the rest?

And of course how will he speak to him?

Of course he should not say it angrily. She must find a way to express her respect for herself but also respect for him. She can say exactly what she feels like, “Okay, so far we’ve gotten it to the boobs, but now I’m not saying that, and I do not want to make any such comments.